The Big Idea
If you want to communicate on a deeper level, you have to make regular time to talk.
To connect in conversation, you must have regularly scheduled times of communication. You need a minimum of four 30 minute Couple Talk Times each week. No children. No pets. No television. No iPhone, iPad, or any other electronic device. The world may end while you are talking, but that's a chance you will have to take.
It's just the two of you in a private, quiet place in your home. Who schedules these Couple Talk Times? The husband. Who makes sure they happen? The husband. Who leads in these talk times? The wife. Kidding. The husband.
Solomon and Shulamith make time to be together throughout the Song of Solomon. One of the secrets to their communication and their passion is their commitment to spend time together on a regular basis.
Most, if not all, of your emotional and spiritual intimacy will be generated in these Couple Talk Times. Why? You know why. Life is a blur of activity and demands: your jobs, your kids, your home and the chores, paying bills, family. . .
Talk today about how much time you actually spend in private conversation each week. I'll bet the number is pretty low.
These series of blogs are based on my International bestseller: The Top Ten Most Outrageous Couples of the Bible. Okay, it is not an international bestseller. It did go to number one in Lichtenstein. Okay, that's not true, either. But, it is a good book and will teach you some terrific relationship principles-if I do say myself.
If you are struggling in your marriage or know someone who is, check out my new I Don't Want a Divorce podcast. You'll find it on my website.