My life is incredibly more free after being brave enough to leave my narcissistic ex-husband.
He controlled everything in my life - money, friends, vacations, clothing. I have been spending time with my friends and family again and now without guilt or him trying to ruin it with arguing with me before I left.
I have spent an incredible amount of time with my children because he is not around. Every waking minute before I spent serving him and making sure all of his needs were met. It's refreshing to go wherever I want with whoever I want.
Another freedom is mentally. I don't have to waste any more time worrying about what he is doing or who he is cheating on me with. And no more gaslighting! Which he did until the very end! It's amazing to be on the other side. He will never change. And I have. Loving my free life!!
I just found Dr. Clarke and I'm so grateful. Thank you for telling your story. Our divorce was final 6 weeks ago, after a 9 year marriage. I can't believe I rationalized his toxic, awful behavior for so long. God absolutely rescued and redeemed me. (In 18 months, I was diagnosed with 2 unrelated cancers, separated and divorced, left our home, battled hard to NOT pay spousal support, endured his abusive adult children, and took a big financial hit, as I approach retirement)--In the midst of it all, blessings and support from family and friends. I have appreciated my Episcopal Church leaders and friends, a good therapist and the peace and grace that our Lord affords us. And while…
Did you ever completely cut off your family while you were in your narc relationship? Our daughter just married her narc (without a word to us by her own voice--haven't heard her voice for almost a year). We're watching it happen, trying to remind her that she is loved with only her work email as access now--and no responses from her. It's so bizarre!